Self-actualization is one of the basic human needs.
These basic needs are the culmination of other basic human needs including the need for self-esteem, the need to be loved, the need for security and physical needs: food, drink, clothing and shelter.
One of a person’s basic needs is the need to be loved, which comes from people around us. Apart from that love must also come from ourselves.
A person who has fulfilled his basic needs including being able to appreciate and love himself has the following characteristics:
- Can see the situation correctly and honestly. They are very sensitive when they have to lie and are not honest.
- Can accept all sides of humanity, including weaknesses and weaknesses. Other humans around him can be accepted with a sense of tolerance.
- Demonstrates creativity and spontaneity in daily activities.
- Fulfill its obligations and resolve the problems it faces.
- Free from other parties’ authority.
- Appreciate the good things he gets in life.
The following are quotes about how to love ourselves as an evaluation to ourselves which is one of the greatest gifts from Allah SWT that we must guard:
Quotes About Self-Love
“It’s never too late to be the person you want to be.” ~ George Eliot
“There is only one success, which is being able to spend your life in your own way.” ~ Christopher Morley
“Before helping others, I must be able to help myself. Before strengthening others, I must be able to strengthen myself first.” ~ Peter Claver
“Life is not to find an identity. Life is to create an identity.” ~ George Bernard Shaw
“I learned I’m not a good executive. I’m an entrepreneur, and I’m creative. I have to go with my gut and do what I want to do.” ~ Jerry Weintraub
“True love is an inside job.” – Anonymous
“What determines the future is your choice, not chance.” ~ Jean Nidetek
“Self-love is not selfish … it is self-full.” ~ Anonymous
“I am my own biggest critic. Before anyone else has criticized me, I have already criticized myself. But for the rest of my life, I am going to be with me and I don’t want to spend my life with someone who is always critical. So I am going to stop being my own critic. It’s high time that I accept all the great things about me.” ~ C. JoyBell C
“I don’t like myself, I’m crazy about myself.” ~ May West
“Be the beloved you have always wanted to have.” ~ Anonymous
“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.” ~ C. JoyBell C.
“A positive mental attitude is rooted in clear, calm and honest confidence.” ~ John Maxwell
“Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, but you also have an obligation to be one.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
“No matter what age, shape, or size, you are always lovable.” ~ Anonymous
“Be gentle with yourself, learn to love yourself, to forgive yourself, for only as we have the right attitude toward ourselves can we have the right attitude toward others.” ~ Wilfred Peterson
“Seeking love outside you can leave you feeling empty inside.” ~ Anonymous
“Loving yourself can start from being grateful for what is in you.” ~ Simpliways
“Know yourself then you will win all battles.” ~ Lao Tzu
“If you have the ability to love, love yourself ~ Charles Bukowski
“The one you need to love most is the person in the mirror.” ~ Anonymous
“If you can learn to love yourself and all the flaws, you can love other people so much better. And that makes you so happy.” ~ Kristin Chenoweth
“It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.” ~ Eartha Kitt
“Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions … Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.” ~ Tina Fey
“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.” ~ Robert Morely
“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.” ~ Shannon L. Alder
“When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.” ~ Diane Von Furstenberg
“Getting to know, love, and appreciate yourself is a worthy cause.” ~ Anonymous
“Do all the good you can do with all your abilities, in all the ways you can, in all places, at any time, to everyone, as long as you can.” ~ Samuel Wesley
“Remember … you are perfect whole and complete, just the way you are.” ~ Anonymous
“We must have a theme, a goal, a purpose in our lives. If you don’t know where you’re aiming, you don’t have a goal. My goal is to live my life in such a way that when I die, someone can say, she cared.” ~ Mary Kay Ash
“Self-love is the foundation for an amazing relationship with another.” ~ Anonymous
“You must be fearless enough to give yourself the love you did not receive.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
“Comparison is an act of violence against the self.” ~ Iyanla Vanza
“When you feel good about yourself, others will feel good about you, too.” ~ Jake Steinfeld
“Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.” ~ M. Scott Peck
“Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their ~ Les Brown
“Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the ways you can. In all the places you can. At all the times you can. To all the people you can. As long as ever you can.” ~ John Wesley T.
“The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.” ~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” ~ Harvey Fierstein
“In your own life, it’s important to know how spectacular you are.” ~ Steve Maraboli
“Love yourself instead of abusing yourself.” ~ Karolina Kurkova
“Life is too short to waste any amount of time wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.” ~ C. JoyBell C.
“When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.” ~ Jodi Picoult, Change of Heart
“Do not look at the past with regret, nor look at your future with fear, but look around you mindfully.” ~ James Thurber
“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” ~ Mark Twain
Conclusion and Tips
To be able to achieve the needs of self-actualization including loving yourself the following things need to be done:
- Stop comparing yourself with others. Look in the mirror and say, ‘This is my portrait, this is my canvas, this is me’.
- Don’t stop growing or get complacent quickly. Everyone must know that they will not stop growing as a person, and will not stop learning.
- Be honest with yourself. Siver reminds us to be honest with ourselves, especially when in doubt. Get rid of all feel about what you have to think, do or say. Feel your own desires. Enter yourself and discover what you really feel and want to do. Don’t be afraid to say no.
- Don’t Be Afraid to Take Risks. Make sure that progress and development are what you choose every day.
- Balanced. Live a balanced physical, spiritual. Discover new experiences, explore yourself further – without stress.
Hopefully, the Quotes about self-love above will be useful.